41 How to Win Friends and Influence People Quotes I Dale Carnegie

Book – How to Win Friends and Influence People (Quotes)How to win friends and influence people book cover photo

Author – Dale Carnegie

Genre – Self – help

Originally Published – 1936

One of the all time best-selling book on effective communication, getting along with people and persuade others in our way of thinking through being genuinely interested in them.

This book is an equivalent to any course on this subject and if read and applied persistently can do wonders for anyone.

Here are great quotes and lines that will help you consider and adopt better way of communication.

1. “The ability to deal with people is as purchasable a commodity as sugar or coffee. And I will pay more for that ability, than any other under the sun” – John D. Rockefeller


2. “We learn by doing. So, If you desire to master any principles do something about them. Only knowledge that is used sticks in you mind”


3. “It is frequently easier to find fault than to find praise. It is more natural to talk about what you want than to talk about what the other person wants”


4. “Criticism is futile because it puts a person on the defensive and usually makes him strive to justify himself”


5. “Criticism is dangerous, because it wounds a person’s precious pride, hurts his sense of importance and arouses resentment”


6. “Do you know someone you would like to change and regulate and improve? Good! That is fine. I am all in favor of it. But why not begin on yourself? From a purely selfish standpoint, that is a lot more profitable than trying to improve others – yes, and a lot less dangerous. “Don’t complain about the snow on you neighbor’s roof, when you own doorstep is unclean”


7. “Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain – and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving”


8. “God himself, sir, does not propose to judge man until the end of his days. Why should you and I ?”


9. “Once I did bad and that I heard ever/Twice I did good, but that I heard never”


10. “Don’t be afraid of enemies who attach you. Be afraid of the friends who flatter you. Flattery is telling the other person precisely what he thinks about himself”


11. “Use what language you will. You can never say anything but what you are” – Ralph Waldo Emerson


12. “I shall pass this way but once; any good, therefore, that I can do or any kindness that I can show to any human being, let me do it now. Let me not defer nor neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again”


13. “Of course, you are interested in what you want. You are eternally interested in it. But no one else is. The rest of us are just like you: we are interested in what we want”


14. “If there is any one secret of success, It lies in the ability to get the other person’s point of view and see things from that person’s angle as well as from you own”


15. “People who can put themselves in the place of other people, who can understand the workings of their minds, need never worry about what the future has in store for them”


16. “You can make more friends in two months by becoming genuinely interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you”


17. “It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow men who has the greatest difficulties in life and provides the greatest injury to others. It is from among such individuals that all human failures spring”


18. “Actions speak louder than words, and a SMILE says, I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you”


19. “Actions seems to follow feeling, but really action and feeling go together; and by regulating the action, which is under the more direct control of the will, we can indirectly regulate the feeling, which is not” – William James


20. “It isn’t what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it”

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21. ” Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be” – Abraham Lincoln


22. “A man without a SMILE must not open a shop” – Chinese Proverb


23. “Remember that NAME and call it easily, and you have paid a subtle and very effective compliment. But forget or misspell it – and you have placed yourself at a sharp disadvantage”


24. “Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language”


25. ” Many people fail to make a favorable impression because they don’t listen attentively. They have been so much concerned with what they are going to say next that they do not keep their ears open”


26. “People who talk only of themselves think only of themselves. And those people who only of themselves, are hopelessly uneducated no matter how instructed they maybe”


27. ” The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated. Always make the other person feel important”


28. “A man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still”


29. ” There is only one way under high heaven to get the best of an argument – and that is to AVOID it”


30. “If you argue and rankle and contradict, you may achieve a victory sometimes; but it will be an empty victory because you will never get you opponent’s good will”


31. “Hatred is never ended by hatred but by LOVE, and a misunderstanding is never ended by an argument but by tact, diplomacy, conciliation and a sympathetic desire to see other person’s viewpoint”


32. “Distrust you first Instinctive Impression – Our first natural reaction in a disagreeable situation is to be defensive. Be careful. Keep calm and watch out for you first reaction. It maybe you at you worst, not you best”


33. “Control you temper. Remember, you can measure the size of a person by what makes him or her angry”


34. “If you tell them they are wrong, do you make them want to agree with you? Never. For you have struck a direct blow at their intelligence, judgment, pride and self-respect”


35. “You cannot teach a man anything; you can only help him find it within himself” – Galileo


36. “Be wiser than other people if you can; but do not tell them so” – Lord Chesterfield


37. ” Our first reaction to most of the statements (which we hear from other people) is an evaluation or judgment, rather than an understanding of it”


38. “Any fool can try to defend his or her mistakes – and most fools do – but it raises one above the herd and gives one a feeling of nobility and exultation to admit one’s mistake”


39. “If you disagree with them you maybe tempted to interrupt. But don’t. It is dangerous. They won’t pay attention to you while they still have a lot of ideas of their own crying for expression”


40. “Person usually has two reasons for doing a thing: one that sounds good and a real one” – J. Pierpont Morgan


41. “Praise is like sunlight to the warm human spirit; we cannot flower and grow without it”


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39 Think and Grow Rich Quotes I Napoleon Hill

Book – Think and Grow Rich (Quotes)think and grow rich book cover photo

Author – Napoleon Hill

Genre – Self- help Book

Published Year – 1937

One of best-selling classic book in the self-help domain. Quotes and many lines are as inspiring and helpful as principles shared in the book.

Here are few inspiring, uplifting quotes and lines from the book.

1. “Poverty needs no plan. It needs no one to aid it, because it is bold and ruthless. Riches are shy and timid. They have to be “attracted”


2. “Opportunity has a sly habit of slipping in by the back door, and often it comes disguised in the form of misfortune, or temporary defeat”


3. “One of the most common causes of failure is the habit of quitting when one is overtaken by temporary defeat”


4. “There are no limitations to the mind except those we acknowledge. Both poverty and riches are the off-spring of thought”


5. “Self-mastery is the hardest job you will ever tackle. If you do not conquer self, you will be conquered by self”


6. “You may see at the same time your best friend and your greatest enemy, by stepping in front of the mirror”


7. “The world has the habit of making room for the man whose words and actions show that he knows where he is going”


8. “It was a great surprise to me when I discovered that most of the ugliness I saw in others, was but a reflection of my own nature”


9. “Put your foot upon the neck of the fear of criticism by reaching a decision not to worry about what other people think, do, or say”


10. “A man’s alibi is the child of his own imagination and it is human nature to defend one’s own brain-child”


11. “The starting point of all achievement is DESIRE. Keep this constantly in mind. Weak desire brings weak results”


12. “Set your mind on a definite goal and observe how quickly the world stands aside to let you pass”


13. “Every adversity, every failure, every heartbreak, carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit”


14. “Success requires no apologies, Failure permits no alibis”


15. “When one is truly ready for a thing, it puts in its appearance”


16. “Every failure brings with it the seed of an equivalent success”


17. “No one ever is defeated until defeat has been accepted as a reality”


18. “All impulses of thought have a tendency to clothe themselves in their physical equivalent ”


19. “Faith is the only known agency which will give your thoughts a spiritual nature. FAITH and FEAR make poor bedfellows. Where one is found, the other cannot exist”


20 “Do not wait. Start where you stand, work with whatever tools you may have at your command, and better tools will be found as you go along”


21. “One of the blessings of maturity is that it sometimes brings one greater courage to be truthful, regardless of what those who do not understand, may think or say”


22. “When a man really DESIRES a thing so deeply that he is willing to stake his entire future on a single turn of the wheel in order to get it, he is sure to win”


23. “When riches begin to come they come so quickly, in such great abundance, that one wonders where they have been hiding during all this lean years”


24. “Success comes to those who become SUCCESS CONSCIOUS. Failure comes to those who indifferently allow themselves to become FAILURE CONSCIOUS”


25. “Every person who wins in any undertaking must be willing to burn his ships and cut all sources of retreat”


26. “Our only limitations are those we set up in our own minds”


27. “FAITH is a state of mind which may be induced, or created, by affirmation or repeated instructions to the subconscious mind, through the principle of autosuggestion”


28. “FAITH is the element, the “chemical” which, when mixed with prayer, gives one direct communication with Infinite Intelligence”


29. “FAITH is the element which transforms the ordinary vibration of thought, created by the finite mind of man, into the spiritual equivalent”


30. “Ideas can be transmuted into cash through the power of definite purpose, plus definite plans”


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31. “Temporary defeat should mean only one thing, the certain knowledge that there is something wrong with your plan”


32. “No man is ever whipped, until he QUITS—in his own mind”


33. “Education consists, not so much of knowledge, but of knowledge effectively and persistently APPLIED. Men are paid, not merely for what they know, but more particularly for WHAT THEY DO WITH THAT WHICH THEY KNOW”


34. “Before you can control conditions, you must first control yourself. Self-mastery is the hardest job you will ever tackle. If you do not conquer self, you will be conquered by self”


35. “You may see at the same time both your best friend and your greatest enemy, by stepping in front of a mirror”


36. “PROCRASTINATION, the opposite of DECISION, is a common enemy which practically every man must conquer”


37. “Tell the world what you intend to do, but first show it. This is the equivalent of saying that “deeds, and not words, are what count most”


38. “Be PERSISTENT no matter how slowly you may, at first, have to move. WITH PERSISTENCE WILL COME SUCCESS”


39. “Riches do not respond to wishes. They respond only to definite plans, backed by definite desires, through constant PERSISTENCE”


Hope this quotes and lines inspire you in some way. Feel free to share this post of quotes with anyone you feel be benefited and inhale inspiration, uplift their day to persist in their quest.

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Muzammil

Your Word is Your Wand – Florence Scovel Shinn

Book – Your Word is Your Wand Author – Florence Scovel Shinn Genre – Self- help Book Published in – 1928 Got hands on another book from Florence Scovel Shinn after reading “The game of life and how to play it” Your word is your wand is of sequel to the book and share great … Read more

The Magic of Thinking Big Quotes – David J. Schwartz

Book – The Magic of Thinking Big (Quotes)the magic of thinking big book cover photo

Author – David J. Schwartz PhD

Genre – Self- Help

Originally Published – 1959

The book is full of useful insights and open up minds to great ideas. The book is equally filled with great quotes and one liners that will inspire you to take control of your life and start thinking big, and achieve big.

Here are my favorites quotes from the book.

1. “Look at things not as they are, but as they can be. Visualization adds value to everything. A big thinker always visualizes what can be done in the future. He isn’t stuck with the present”


2. “Success is determined not so much by the size of one’s brain, as it is by the size of one’s thinking”


3. “All of us, more than we recognize, are products of the surrounding thinking. And much of this thinking is little, not big ”


4. “There is nothing either good or bad except that thinking makes it so” – Shakespeare


5. “Believe, really believe, you can move a mountain, and you can. Not many people believe that they can move mountains. So, as a result, not many people do”


6. “Belief works this way. Belief, the “I’m-positive-I-can” attitude, generates the power, skill, and energy needed to do. When you believe I-can-do-it, the how-to-do-it develops”


7. “The how-to-do-it always comes to the person who believes he can do it”


8. “The “Okay-I’ll-give-it-a-try-but-I-don’t-think-it-will-work” attitude produces failures”


9. “Production in your thought factory is under the charge of two foremen, one of whom we will call Mr. Triumph and the other Mr. Defeat”

“Both Mr. Triumph and Mr. Defeat are intensely obedient. They snap to attention immediately. All you need do to signal either foreman is to give the slightest mental beck and call. If the signal is positive, Mr. Triumph will step forward and go to work. Likewise, a negative signal brings Mr. Defeat forward”


10. “The right attitude and one arm will beat the wrong attitude and two arms every time”


11. “One may (and let me emphasize the word may) get a little sympathy, but one doesn’t get respect and loyalty by being a chronic complainer”


12. “The thinking that guides your intelligence is much more important than how much intelligence you may have ”


13. “It is more important to use your mind to think than to use it as a warehouse for facts”


14. “The ability to know how to get information is more important than using the mind as a garage for facts”


15. “Never underestimate your own intelligence, and never overestimate the intelligence of others”


16. “Action cures fear. Indecision, postponement, on the other hand, fertilize fear”


17. “Doing what’s right keeps your conscience satisfied. And this builds self-confidence. When we do what is known to be wrong, two negative things happen. First, we feel guilt and this guilt eats away confidence. Second, other people sooner or later find out and lose confidence in us”


18. “Think big, we must use words and phrases that produce big, positive mental images”


19. “All the successful public speakers have one thing in common: They have something to say and they feel a burning desire for other people to hear it”


20. “Before complaining or accusing or reprimanding someone or launching a counterattack in self- defense, ask yourself, “Is it really important?” In most cases, it isn’t and you avoid conflict”


21. “Don’t sell yourself short. Conquer the crime of self-deprecation. Concentrate on your assets. You’re better than you think you are”


22. “Use the big thinker’s vocabulary. Use big, bright, cheerful words. Use words that promise victory, hope, happiness, pleasure; avoid words that create unpleasant images of failure, defeat, and grief”


23. “Stretch your vision. See what can be, not just what is. Practice adding value to things, to people, and to yourself”


24. “Get the big view of your job. Think, really think your present job is important. That next promotion depends mostly on how you think toward your present job”


25. “Think above trivial things. Focus your attention on big objectives. Before getting involved in a petty matter, ask yourself, “Is it really important?”


26. “When you believe something is impossible, your mind goes to work for you to prove why. But when you believe, really believe, something can be done, your mind goes to work for you and helps you find the ways to do it”


27. “The successful person doesn’t ask, “Can I do it better?” He knows he can. So he phrases the question: “How can I do it better?”


28. “Capacity is a state of mind. How much we can do depends on how much we think we can do. When you really believe you can do more, your mind thinks creatively and shows you the way”


29. “Big people monopolize the listening. Small people monopolize the talking”


30. “Your appearance talks to you and it talks to others. Make certain it says, “Here is a person who has self-respect. He’s important. Treat him that way.”


31. “The body is what the body is fed. By the same token, the mind is what the mind is fed”


32. “People who tell you it cannot be done almost always are unsuccessful people, are strictly average or mediocre at best in terms of accomplishment”


33. “How we think shows through in how we act. Attitudes are mirrors of the mind. They reflect thinking”


34. “In at least nine cases out of ten, the “likability” factor is the first thing mentioned. And in an overwhelmingly large number of cases, the “likability” factor is given far more weight than the technical factor”


35. “Bear in mind that the longer you stay tuned to either Channel P (Positive) or Channel N (Negative), the more interested you become and the harder it is to switch channels. This is true because one thought, positive or negative, sets off a whole chain reaction of similar thought”


36. “The person who does the most talking and the person who is the most successful are rarely the same person”


37. “Action feeds and strengthens confidence; inaction in all forms feeds fear. To fight fear, act. To increase fear—wait, put off, postpone”


38. “Commit this question to memory and use it to evaluate everything you do: “Will this help take me where I want to go?” If the answer is no, back off; if yes, press ahead”


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Wish you a life of big thoughts, goals, action and accomplishment.

Muzammil

 

Awakened Imagination – Review – Neville Goddard

Book – Awakened Imagination (Review) Author – Neville Goddard Genre – Self- help Book Published in – 2013 Imagination awakened is kind of sequel to Neville Goddard’s book the power of awareness, that takes readers more deeply in to the significance of Imagination. Man must firmly come to believe that reality lies within him and … Read more