The Subtle Art of not Giving a F*ck Book Review I Mark Manson

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Book – The subtle art of not a giving F*ck (Review)

Author – Mark Manson

Genre – Self-help Book

Published in – 2016

The subtle art of not giving a f*ck different approach to leading good life than many other self-help books I have read so far. It is amazing to read counter approach to what I have read and think of many things from different perspective.

The book shows the mirror and gets us face to face with facing what we need to face, hear what we need to hear, though we never like it, yet crucially important to our growth, sanity and happiness. As I read the book, I felt having man to man chat with a friend and got good, blunt advise with humor.

About the Author –

Mark Manson is an American Self-help Author and blogger. He has written three books so far and the subtle art of not giving a f*ck sold 12 millions copy and has been in top 10 spots in New York times best-sellers list and his other book Everything is f*cked debuted at number one on the New York Times Bestseller List for Advice, How-to, and Miscellaneous.

About the Book –

Marks suggests that the key to a good life is not giving a f*ck more; it’s giving a f*ck less, giving a f*ck only what is true and immediate and important. Example of Charles Bukowski a famous poet, and novelist in the beginning of the book drives point home of the title of book really well.

The Book explains how to focus and prioritize your thoughts effectively—how to pick and choose what matters to you and what does not matter to you based on finely honed personal values, which is not as simple as it sounds.

When Mark says don’t give a f*ck anything, he means choose what you decide to give a f*ck, as we all have limited time here and we can only give a f*ck few things.

Few Key points from the book –

The book is full of straight advice and shares wonderful perspective of looking at things that matters.

1) Happiness is the problem-

Mark explains that thinking and waiting for something to come and we will be happy for good is myth. Happiness comes from solving a problem and not from problem free life.

Happiness is in the solving problem, coming to better problems and not avoid it. As he says formula to happiness is “solve problem; be happy”. But most people are in denial and victim hood mode all the time, instead of solving the problem.

Happiness is in the action, its form of activity. True happiness occurs only when you find the problems you enjoy having and enjoy solving.

2) The Backward Law –

With the help of backward law of Alan watts, Mark explains that chasing and wanting happiness is to remain stuck in the wanting state. Wanting positive experience is a negative experience; accepting negative experience is a positive experience.

Negative emotions are a call to action. When you feel them, it’s because you’re supposed to do something. Positive emotions, on the other hand, are rewards for taking the proper action.

3) Self-awareness onion –

Mark explains self-awareness and different layer with simple yet powerful example of Onion. As there are different layers to onion, so are to self-awareness.

  • Outer layer – like what makes feel good or bad
  • Second layer is to ask why we feel the way we feel under any situation, these questions are comparatively more difficult to answer than the first.
  • The third and deeper full of tears is of our personal values. And takes time and ongoing effort to reach and deal with this layer. As everything, we are and do depends on it and hence to deal with third layer is of utmost importance.

Though, we should start with one layer at a time, and as we get better at knowing self, We can handle deeper layer better.

4) Shitty Values –

Mark has explained values and it’s role and how our life depends on it with great examples. It definitely helped me looks at things differently.

Values like pleasure, material success, always being right, staying positive—are poor ideals for a person’s life. Some of the greatest moments of one’s life are not pleasant, not successful, not known, and not positive.

Our priorities will depend on what we value more – immediate pleasure or long term happiness. What values we prioritize over other values will define our flow of life and how content we will be.

5) Choices we make –

We all deep down knows that we constantly make choices. When we pick problems on our own we are empowered by it, and when problems are forced on us we feel victimized.

Whether we like it or not, we are always taking an active role in what’s occurring to and within us.

6) The Responsibility/Fault Fallacy –

Loved the line from the book – Many people may be to blame for your unhappiness, but nobody is ever responsible for your unhappiness, but you.

Mark explains that we can choose to find fault in every situation, person or take responsibility and make things better. Putting Spider-Man Movie quote “With great power comes great responsibility” in reverse way “With great responsibility comes great power”.

7) Do Something Principle –

Mark suggests doing something about problems by quoting his math teacher Mr. Packwood “If you’re stuck on a problem, don’t sit there and think about it; just start working on it. Even if you don’t know what you’re doing, the simple act of working on it will eventually cause the right ideas to show up in your head.”

This lines sums it up doing something principle well – Action isn’t just the effect of motivation; it’s also the cause of it.

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Conclusion –

This is one of the best book I have read lately, which made me thinking and questioning my point of view at many things like how I pursue my goals, problems.

I strongly recommend this book. You will get a lot to ponder upon and more importantly asking questions that will make you think what you give a f*ck about?

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Do leave your suggestions/feedback of this review in the comment or if you have any questions and I will be glad to answer them.

Wish you a great life.

Muzammil

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