Book – How to Stop Worrying and Start Living (Review)
Author – Dale Carnegie
Genre – Self- help Book
Published in – 1948
We are not worriers, we have a habit of worrying states Mel Robbins author of the 5 second rule. And like any habit we can get rid of worry habit as well. How to stop worrying and start living teaches that in great details with simple to use tactics.
This is the second book I am reading of Dale Carnegie after How to Win Friends and Influence People, which I am referring to date for getting better at effective communication. I have been getting this book reference in many other books and so finally picked and am glad I did.
Most of the Ideas shared in the book are not new, yet generally not applied. Our trouble is not ignorance, but inaction, says Dale Carnegie. This book will guide and inspire you to change that for good.
About the Author –
Dale Carnegie was an American lecturer, writer and developer of self-improvement, salesmanship, corporate training, public speaking, and interpersonal skill courses. He is best known for his best-selling book How to win friends and influence people, which was born from his course on personal development over period. He also wrote best-selling book How to stop worrying and start living with many others.
About the Book –
How to stop worrying and start living is more of a working Manual to eradicate worrying habit than just another book on the subject. It provides practical simple to apply techniques to conquer worrying and start living peacefully.
The book is divided in 10 sections with total 30 chapters and 32 real life stories. Each chapter will give new perspective and ways to deal with our worry habit. Sheer number of real life examples will surely cover anything that you are worrying about or very similar to that. As you find solution matching to your concern, put it to practice and you’ll get result.
Few really good tactics shared in the book
1) Living in day-tight compartment –
No matter how hard we think about past or future all we can control is our present and we can only work with today. Hence, Author suggests staying in day-tight compartment, leaving past and future out of sight and focus on today.
2) Hourglass – One grain of sand at a time. One task at a time –
Thinking of life as hourglass when worries starts to take over – Look at hourglass and compare it with life. No matter what we do there are thousands of grains of sand in the top of the hourglass; and they all pass slowly and evenly through the narrow neck in the middle. Nothing you or I could do would make more than one grain of sand pass through this narrow neck without impairing the hourglass.
3) Think of three things if worried over anything –
- What is the worst that can happen?
- Accept the worst mentally.
- Get to work on improving from the worst to better.
4) Two Questions –
Put these two questions down to paper and you will immediately get over it.
- What am I worrying about?
- What can I do about it?
If there is something you can do it, get to work at once, if it is beyond your control accept it and let it go. As the prayer goes “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; the courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference. “
5) Law of averages in times of worry –
Whenever you feel surrounded by worry think about it in terms of law of averages. “Let’s examine the record.” Let’s ask ourselves: “What are the chances, according to the law of averages that this event I am worrying about will ever occur?”
6) Changing from ‘I wish had’ To “I wish I had and now on I will” –
We often spend too much time on thinking I wish had said this or avoid saying this, did this or avoid doing this and beat ourselves. If, this is you. Please try this. When this happen next time catch yourself in such situation, after thinking of what you wish had said and Add and I will use such words and take certain action from now on and see how worry vanishes.
7) Concerned not worried –
We need to be concerned about our problem but not worried. Concern helps in preparing and taking action while worrying robs us of our strength to plan and act on our plan.
8) Money worries –
Author claims that 70% of our worries are directly or indirectly related to money. There are many stories and simple tactics shared in the book on how to get over our money worries.
9) Working worries –
The book shares basic yet very important habits and rules of handling work to avoid work related worries and get the best out of our work, which usually are work satisfaction and compensation.
1) Keeping a clean desk. Keeping only papers on desk which are related to task at hand.
2) Doing things in order of their importance.
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As mentioned before this book is more like working manual on dealing with worry habits than book and so I suggest reading this book, make notes and apply principles shared in the book. I am certain you’ll get immense benefits from the application of principles..
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Wish you a worry free life.