Book – 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do (Review)
Author- Amy Morin
Genre – Self-Help
Published – 2019
13 things mentally strong people don’t do is about good habits one should inculcate and bad habits one should avoid.
Amy Morin explains as much as good habits counts in succeeding, bad habits needs equal or more attention as that sabotages progress in accomplishing any goal.
She explains that well with GYM example. Picture a person going to the gym every day for six months and eat dozens of donuts after workout thinking he has worked out well and deserves a treat. Then he complains after six months that his workout is of no help as he didn’t get any slimmer.
About the Author –
Amy Morin is a psychotherapist, mental strength trainer, and international bestselling author. She’s a highly sought after keynote speaker who gave one of the most popular TEDx talks of all time.
Her books, 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do and 13 Things Mentally Strong Parents Don’t Do, have been translated into more than 30 languages.
Few Things Out of 13 that Mentally Strong People Don’t Do –
1) Stop Feeling Sorry for Yourself –
Self pity is often used to justify our current situation and even it doesn’t help in improving situation and yet people do it to gain sympathy and avoid taking action or making required changes.
2) Refrain From Thinking Over Things Beyond Our Control –
Mentally strong people have clear sense of what is in their control and what is not. They work towards things within their control and completely let go or accept things not in their control.
3) Stop Being People Pleaser –
They don’t waste energy on pleasing people. They know they can’t please everyone while pursuing their goals and are not scared of saying no or yes to keep everyone happy. As Lao Tzu puts it “Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.”
You may consider reading book The Art of Saying No, if saying No is getting in trouble or keeping you from succeeding.
4) Don’t Dwell on the Past –
They forgive everyone who has wronged them including their own past mistakes. They reflect on past only to utilize learning from their past mistakes or failed endeavor to make use of them in their current situation.
5) Stop Repeating Same Mistakes –
They learn from their mistake and do their best to refrain from making same mistakes again. As they say ” Making mistake is not bad, repeating the same is”
6) Spend Time Alone
They aren’t afraid of spending time alone. Living in time of FOMO we are constantly keeping ourselves engaged, not leaving even 5 minutes to our self for quite time, meditation, or reflecting on our goals. Most people scared to spend time alone as that makes them aware of things that really matters and are being ignored in trivial pursuits.
Quote – All men’s miseries derive from not being able to sit quietly in a room alone. -—BLAISE PASCAL
If you have never tried meditation or busy for longer meditation session, you may consider this amazing 3 Minutes Meditation Program. It will help you get started in meditation.
7) Expecting Immediate Results –
They are well aware that any worthy goal takes time and work to accomplish and they set their eyes on the prize and not giving up easily at any early sign of hiccups or challenges.
They sustain in the game for long as they have clear cut long term goals in place, which drives their daily activity.
Few Inspiring Quotes From the Book –
- Avoid comparing yourself to other people. Comparing yourself to others is like comparing apples and oranges.
- Don’t go around saying the world owes you a living. The world owes you nothing. It was here first. —ROBERT JONES BURDETTE
- Patience, persistence and perspiration make an unbeatable combination for success. —NAPOLEON HILL
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Its good read and I am sure you will come face to face with any challenges you are facing be it comparing yourself to others or you constantly dwell in the past. Reading this book will help you take action towards improving your mental strength.
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Hope this review help you understand what to expect from the book. If you liked this book, you may like Stop Saying You’re Fine by Mel Robbins Too..
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