Book – The Rules of Life (Review)
Author – Richard Templar
Genre – Self-help Book
First Published in 2005.
The title seems a bit cheesy and I realized and even thought and was rather scared of the judgmental look I may get while walking around with the book in my hand. Though after reading, I found it was worth the look or judgment that I might have got.
The book is not revealing anything new. As the Author mention in the book “It’s not revelation, it’s a reminder.”
About the Author –
Richard Templar is a British Author. He is known for having written self-help, personal development, and management books. In a series of books like The rules of life, work, love, wealth, parenting, money and management are shared about 100 rules on the subject.
His style of writing is simple and effective. Books are designed in such a way that readers can read any chapter without having to read prior chapters. All rules are put in maximum of one or two pages.
About The Rules of Life –
I am sure you must have come across people you instantly like, like to spend time or work with. They seem lucky, happy, and successful as if they have cracked the code of life and how to deal with everything they come across with relative ease.
As I surfed through pages I realized these people have most of the qualities described in the book.
The book has rules pertaining to four areas that are Rules for You, Partnership Rule, Family, Friends Rule, and Social Rules with small chapters describing each rule briefly.
The rules will seem very simple yet don’t underestimate the impact of each rule on your improvement in self and your relations with others.
It’s the simple stuff that gets the best result, though we have been told that we got to do hard things and the great results are achieved through them. Simple is not sexy, attractive, and don’t get likes on Instagram, Facebook, and hence less appeal.
Here are a few of the favorites that I have adopted, practicing, and am glad I am working on it.
1) Keep it Under Your Hat – Simply meaning whether you start something or make any changes don’t announce it to the world, discuss it in fact keep it yourself, silently work on it and let people find out on their own.
2) Accept what is Done is Done –
Everyone makes mistakes, big or small. Forgive self and others for what they. As Author mention it – They did what they did not because they wanted to, but because they didn’t know any better.
3) Don’t Dwell on the Past –
This one saves a lot of time, stress, drama, self-pity, and top of everything procrastination. Try to see the past as a room separate from the one you are living in now. You can go in there but you don’t stay there.
4) Learn to Ask Questions –
This one is a really good one and can save us from lots of arguments, misunderstandings, broken relationships.
By asking questions we can know the intention behind it, grasp clearly the meaning, respond nicely rather than reacting by assuming and blowing things out of proportion. Yet do make sure to know when to ask questions and when to keep quiet.
5) If You Can’t Say Anything Good, Don’t Say Anything at All –
This one is really helpful in building the habit of seeing good in others. It is very easy to talk bad behind people’s backs and go on and on about it. Yet it takes courage to say good or nothing at all.
6) Know When to Listen and When to Act –
This one is really simple yet difficult to apply. We tend to start giving advice or help and telling people what they should do, while all they wanted was a friend to just hear them out. Knowing when someone is seeking help/guidance or just wants to talk can help strengthen relations drastically.
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The book is full of insights and rules that I described above, will look very simple, and yet you will find not everything that looks simple is really easy.
Read this one and you will surely resonate with many or most rules. Most importantly apply them and see the difference.
If you read this book, do share your favorite rule in the comment section. Also, I would appreciate your feedback/suggestion about this post in the comment.
Wish you great success.