Book – The Rules of Life (Review)
Author – Richard Templar
Genre – Self-help Book
First Published in 2005.
The title seems a bit cheesy, and I realized and even thought and was somewhat scared of the judgmental look I may get while walking around with the book in my hand. However, after reading, I found it worth the look or judgment I might have brought.
The book is not revealing anything new. As the Author mentions in the book, “It’s not revelation, it’s a reminder.”
About the Author –
Richard Templar is a British Author. He has written self-help, personal development, and management books. A series of books like The Rules of Life, Work, Love, Wealth, Parenting, Money, and Management shared about 100 rules on the subject.
His style of writing is simple and effective. Books are designed so readers can read any chapter without reading prior chapters. All rules are put in a maximum of one or two pages.
About The Rules of Life –
I am sure you must have come across people you instantly like, like to spend time or work with. They seem lucky, happy, and successful, as if they have cracked the code of life and how to deal with everything they come across with relative ease.
As I surfed through the pages, I realized these people have most of the qualities described in the book.
The book has rules in four areas: Rules for You, Partnership Rule, Family, Friends Rule, and Social Rules, with small chapters describing each direction briefly.
The rules will seem very simple, yet don’t underestimate the impact of each control on your improvement in yourself and your relations with others.
The simple stuff gets the best result, though we have been told to do hard things, and excellent results are achieved through them. Simple is not sexy or attractive and doesn’t get likes on Instagram and Facebook, hence less appeal.
Here are a few of the favorites I have adopted practiced, and I am glad I am working on it.
1) Keep it Under Your Hat – Simply meaning, whether you start something or make any changes, don’t announce it to the world, discuss it, keep it yourself, silently work on it, and let people find out on their own.
2) Accept what is Done is Done –
Everyone makes mistakes, big or small. Forgive yourself and others for what they do. As the Author mentions, They did what they did not because they wanted to but because they didn’t know any better.
3) Don’t Dwell on the Past –
This one saves a lot of time, stress, drama, self-pity, and, on top of everything, procrastination. Try to see the Past as a room separate from the one you live in now. You can go in there, but you don’t stay there.
4) Learn to Ask Questions –
This perfect one can save us from arguments, misunderstandings, and broken relationships.
By asking questions, we can know its intention, grasp the meaning, and respond nicely rather than reacting by assuming and blowing things out of proportion. Yet, I know when to ask questions and keep quiet.
5) If You Can’t Say Anything Good, Don’t Say Anything at All –
This one is beneficial in building the habit of seeing good in others. It is easy to talk evil behind people’s backs and go on and on about it. Yet it takes courage to say good or nothing at all.
6) Know When to Listen and When to Act –
This one is straightforward yet challenging to apply. We tend to start giving advice or help and telling people what to do, while they only want a friend to hear them out. Knowing when someone is seeking help/guidance or wants to talk can help strengthen relations drastically.
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The book is full of insights, and the rules I described above will look very simple, yet you will find that not everything is straightforward.
Read this one, and you will resonate with many or most rules. Most importantly, apply them and see the difference.
If you like this book, you may also like The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.
Share your favorite rule in the comment section if you read this book. Also, I would appreciate your feedback/suggestions about this post in the comments.
I wish you great success.