Book – Unf*ck yourself (Get out of Your Head, and into Your Life)
Author – Gary John Bishop
Genre – Self-Help
Published in –2017
You are what you do, not what you say you’ll do.– Carl Jung
Have you ever tried noticing your self-talk? or altering it to your benefit, how many times do you get carried away and lost track of important things that need to be done and lose precious time.
If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone, and Unf*ck Yourself will reset your self-talk in a way that helps you get out of your head, take action to achieve your goals, and live a truly fulfilling life.
Disclaimer – This will only work if you work.
About the Book –
The language we use to describe our circumstances determines how we see, experience, and participate in them. It dramatically affects how we deal with our life and confront problems both big and small.
Gary claims that events hold no power over us at all. We create our reality with our minds. This book will help you seek the answer, not out there, but inside of yourself.
Re-train Your Brain One Word at a Time – Just like we build habits by repeating an action until it becomes “automatic”, we can use strong, assertive language over time to create lasting change in our lives.
Here are excerpts from the book –
Assertive v/s Narrative –
- How the heck does one create their own reality? By shifting self-talk from being a streaming narrative (where one talk about self, others and life, a dialog of opinion and judgment), to being assertive, where one cast all of the default “noise” aside and assert power right here and now.
- The physiological and psychological impact of using in-the-moment, assertive language is not only powerful, it has a very real in-the-moment effect. There’s a massive difference between, “I am relentless” and, “I will be relentless”.
There is no greater knowledge than the knowledge you have verified for yourself, in your own experience.– Gary John Bishop
Here are Assertions Gary shares in the Book –
1) I Am Willing –
- Stop blaming luck. Stop blaming other people. Stop pointing to outside influences or circumstances. You have the life you’re willing to put up with.
- Take the case; imagine for a moment, that willingness is missing in your life. Not some wispy sheepish willingness but rather a bold willingness, the kind of willing state where you are ready for what’s next and ready to act on it.
- Plant Your Flag – When you start to view the world through the lens of what you’re willing and unwilling to do, rather than what you want and don’t want, things start to become a lot clearer.
Willingness is the lifeblood of the new, the infinite well of possibility and potential, a state where new futures arise and a whole new you can begin.– Gary John Bishop
2) I Am Wired to Win –
- You’re always winning because your brain is wired to. The trouble comes when what you really want on a subconscious level and what you say you want are different, sometimes radically so.
- Right now, your mind may be unconquerable at proving that you’re not worthy of love, that you’re lazy, or that you’ll always be out of shape or never have any money.
- We are wired to win – we just have to point ourselves in the right direction so we can win at something we consciously choose.
3) I Got This –
Everyone has their problems, and life isn’t always perfect. It never will be.
- Gary claims that we all have problems, it may vary in size shape, and length and often one problem affect other areas in life as well for example, financial problems. It can cause tension at home, we get irritated at little things like traffic.
- That little mess can influence all areas of your life as long as your emotions surrounding that one area become the lens through which you see everything.
- Your boat hasn’t and won’t sink so easily. There may be some waves, you might go through some storms, and you’ll probably end up seasick from time to time, but your journey across that ocean we call life will continue.
If all our misfortunes were laid in one common heap whence everyone must take an equal portion, most people would be content to take their own and depart.– Socrates
4) I Embrace the Uncertainty –
- We liked to be in control, prepared, we want to know what to expect, what to wear. Gary claims that it’s our survival instinct of living in constant danger makes us more attached to certainty.
- When you stick to what you’re comfortable with, doing the same things you’ve always done, you’re in effect living in the past – not moving forward.
- You might find this terrible to think of how uncertain life is, but it’s true. No matter how hard we may try, we can never predict exactly what life will bring. Our plans will falter at some point eventually.
In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.– Theodore Roosevelt
5) I am not my Thoughts, I am what I do
- You are not defined by what’s inside your head. You are what you do, your actions.
- While inspiration or motivation may strike once in a while, they are fickle friends and can’t be depended on to show up whenever you need them.
- It’s only through your actions that your thoughts actually become your life. Until then, they are only thoughts.
Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.– Dale Carnegie
6) I Am Relentless –
- It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it. – Aristotle
- When you find yourself in that situation, all you can do is focus on and deal with what’s directly in front of you. You just put one foot in front of the other, taking things on as they present themselves.
- You’re not bashing your fist against a brick wall until it is bloody and bruised. You’re using your hammer and chisel to slowly, methodically chip away piece by piece until eventually there’s a hole.
7) I Expect Nothing, I Accept Everything –
- Whenever we start something new, be it business, side hustle or getting back in shape. We set certain expectation based on what we know, read, and heard from others.
- Yet, what we don’t factor is what we don’t know. These expectations are always based on half knowledge and creates disappointments when our expectations don’t match the outcome.
- Bishop suggests that we must start with what we know, yet also accept unknown situations. As, we will always come across hurdles we are not aware of, and by accepting them, we get chance to work on solutions rather than get sunk in self pity.
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As you finish reading Unf*ck Yourself, You will walk away with these powerful assertions, helping you stay on track to meet your goals. I would like to leave you with the last thought from the book.
“Just like how we improve our internal by moving to the external, we can forget our past by creating a future. Build something big, something bigger than anything you’ve done.”
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