Book – Who Will Cry, When You Die (Summary)
Author – Robin Sharma
Genre – Self-help Book
Published in – 1999
The tragedy of life is not death but what we let die inside of us while we live. – Norman Cousins
Who Will Cry When You Die is one of the books I first read, starting my self-help journey around 2009.
In this fantastic book, Robin Sharma shares 101 life lessons that help readers get a better version of themselves. As they say, “We don’t get what we want; we get who we are.” As we become better, everything we touch improves drastically.
About The Author –
Robin Sharma is a Canadian author and speaker. He became famous as “the monk who sold his Ferrari Series”—his more than ten books, including the latest The 5 A. M Club has sold millions of copies and translated into many languages.
He is one of the most respected leaders in the personal development industry and has helped millions through his writing, coaching, and training.
About The Book –
It’s not how long we live but how we live that matters. With 101 chapters, Robin Sharma put across 101 thought-provoking life lessons to improve the quality of our physical, emotional, and spiritual life and make sure to be remembered the way we want.
Here are a few of my favorite lessons from 101 –
1) Maintain Your Perspective –
- They say it is never as bad or good as it looks. We must maintain our perspective and look at things from a different angle. Try to examine what is good in any situation.
- Focus on using any situation or at least what lessons you can draw from any bad experience.
2) Practice Tough Love –
- Robin calls self-discipline tough love. Discipline allows you to do all those things you know in your heart you should do but never feel like doing.
- Without self-discipline, you will not set clear goals, manage your time effectively, treat people well, persist through times, care for your health, or think positively.
3) Keep a Journal –
This one has dramatically helped me, and I strongly recommend this habit. There are various reasons one should write. It doesn’t matter what you use journaling for. Below are a few benefits and how to journal.
- Improves short-term memory.
- An excellent way to keep track of how and where you spend your time.
- It is an excellent way to note your learning and experiences to avoid repeating the same mistakes.
- The best way to relieve stress emptying the mind, Mel Robbins mentions in The 5 Second Rule (Brain dump)
You may consider starting writing down below for habit formation –
- Start with making notes of significant events of the day.
- What are you grateful for? Gratitude has an enormous positive impact on all aspects of life.
- Set weekly goals. Let it be tiny goals. The idea is to form a habit and not to burn down the self with huge dreams and get too overwhelmed to act.
- You may write thank you notes to people who have positively impacted your life.
4) Go On Truth Fast –
- Incredible challenge Robin suggests catching ourselves over the small lies we tell ourselves and others. As we break words, we lose trust, credibility, and often relationships.
- Go on a Truth fast for seven days. Speak only the truth, and commit only if you can deliver. This may hurt people who are not used to hearing NO from you, though eventually, you will gain credibility and respect and be known as a man of your word.
- Most of our problem arises from saying YES too fast and not saying NO soon enough. If you have a problem saying NO, you need to introspect about what makes you say yes when you want to say NO and come up with the courage to stand your ground and say NO when you choose to say NO.
- You may consider reading a small yet practical book by Damon Zahariades, “The Art of Saying No.”
6) Schedule Worry Breaks –
- As Mark Twain said, “I had lots of problems, most of which never happened.” Most of the time, we board the worry train and worry about things that never happen.
- Robin suggests scheduling worry breaks in a day. So whenever you worry about anything, put it on your list of concerns and worry about them in worry break.
- This one practice can free up a lot of time and energy to focus on things that matter. As you build this habit, you will realize that most of the things you worry about either never happen or are things you don’t have any control over.
7) Get Up Early –
- In his famous book The 5 A.M. Club, he mentions early rising is a gift you give to yourself. You can get many things done while most of the world is sleeping.
- Dawn tranquility has charm; you will never be the same once you get accustomed to it.
8) Remember Awareness Precedes Change –
- Becoming aware of our habits is the first step towards growth. As you become aware, you realize what is working and what is not. Bring mindfulness to your days. As William James puts it, “Compared with what we ought to be, we are only half awake.”
9) Master Your Time –
- This is a big one. Technology has made our lives so easy. However, it also has created lots of distractions. Social media is one of them. Though a limit is applicable, we spend more than the required time glued to our phones.
- As Emily Fletcher put it in her book Stress Less, Accomplish More, “Meditation is like a hardware upgrade for your brain so that you can run whatever software you already have in place —Christianity, Judaism, Islam, Buddhism, Hinduism can all run more effectively on an optimized brain machine.”
- This practice will tremendously uplift your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual life.
There are a few more lessons I loved –
- Don’t Pick Up the Phone Every Time It Rings.
- Don’t worry about things you can’t change.
- Get serious about setting goals.
I have also created a video of a few quotes from the book – I hope you like it. Please subscribe to my YouTube channel – Myread4change.
This one book full of wisdom from Robin Sharma, at best, will give you enough to adopt, implement, and get better. At least it will leave you with good questions to ponder when making a life-changing decision.
I hope this book summary encourages you in some way to better yourself. If you like this book, you will also like The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.
Please share your thoughts in the comments. I would love to hear from you.
Thank you for your time. I wish you a Blessed Life.