Book – Who Will Cry, When You Die (Summary)
Author – Robin Sharma
Genre – Self-help Book
Published in – 1999
The tragedy of life is not death, but what we let die inside of us while we live. – Norman Cousins
Who will cry, when you die is one of the books I first read in starting my journey of self-help around 2009.
Robin Sharma in this amazing book, shares 101 life lessons that help readers to get a better version of themselves. As they say “We don’t get what we want, we get who we are”. As we become better, everything we touch improves drastically.
About The Author –
Robin Sharma is a Canadian author and speaker. He shot to fame with “the monk who sold his Ferrari Series”. His more than 10 books including the latest The 5 A. M Club have sold millions of copies and translated into many languages.
He is one of the most respected leaders in the personal development industry and has helped millions of people through his writing, coaching and training.
About The Book –
It’s not how long we live, but how we live that matters. With small 101 chapters, Robin Sharma put across 101 thought-provoking life lessons to improve the quality of our physical, emotional and spiritual life and make sure to be remembered the way we want.
Here are a few of my favourite lessons from 101 –
1) Maintain Your Perspective –
- As they say it never as bad or good as it looks. It is important that we maintain our perspective and try to look at things from different angle. Try to look what is good in any situation.
- Focus on how can you turn any situation to your advantage or at least what lessons can you draw from any bad experience?
2) Practice Tough Love –
- Robin calls self-discipline, tough love. Discipline allows you to do all those things you know in your heart you should do but never feel like doing.
- Without self-discipline, you will not set clear goals, manage your time effectively, treat people well, persist through the tough times, care for your health or think positive thoughts.
3) Keep a Journal –
This one has helped me a lot and I strongly recommend this habit. There are various reasons one should write. It doesn’t matter what you use journaling for. Below are a few benefits and how to journal.
- Improves short term memory.
- Good way to keep track of how and where you spend you time.
- Good way to note down your learning, experiences to refrain from repeating same mistakes.
- Best way to relief stress, emptying mind, Mel Robbins mentions in The 5 Second Rule (Brain dump)
You may consider starting writing down below for habit formation –
- Start with making notes of major events of day.
- What you are grateful for? Gratitude has huge positive impact on all aspect of life.
- Set weekly goals. Let it be tiny goals. Idea is to form habit and not to burn down self with huge goals and get too overwhelmed to act.
- You may write thank you notes to people who have had positive impact in your life.
4) Go On Truth Fast –
- Amazing challenge Robin suggests catching ourselves over a small lies we tell self and others. As we break words, we lost trust, credibility and often relationships.
- Go on a Truth fast for seven days. Speak only truth, commit only if you can deliver. This may hurt people who are not used to hear NO from you, though eventually you will gain credibility, respect and be known as man of your words.
- Most of our problem arises from saying YES too fast and not saying NO soon enough. If you have problem saying NO, you need to introspect about what makes you say yes, when you want to say NO and come up with courage to stand your ground and say NO, when you choose to say NO.
- You may consider reading small yet effect book by Damon Zahariades “The Art of Saying No”.
6) Schedule Worry Breaks –
- As Mark Twain put it “I had lots of problems, most of which never happened”. Most of the time we board on worry train, worry about things that mostly never happens.
- Robin suggests to schedule worry breaks in a day. So whenever you catch your self worrying about anything put it on your list of worries and worry about them in worry break.
- This one practice can free up lot of time, energy to focus on things that matters. As you build this habit you will realize most of the thing you worry about either never happens or are things you don’t have any control over.
7) Get Up Early –
- Robin Sharma has written famous book The 5 A.M. Club in which he mentions early rising is a gift you give to yourself. You can get lot of things done, while most of the world is sleeping.
- Dawn quietude has its own charm and once you get accustomed to it, you will be never be the same.
8) Remember Awareness Precedes Change –
- Becoming aware of our habits is the first step towards growth. As you become aware, you realize what is working what’s not. Bring mindfulness to your days. As William James puts it “Compared with what we ought to be, we are only half awake”.
9) Master Your Time –
- This is really big one. Technology has made our life so easy, however it also has created lots of distraction. Social media being one of them. Though in a limit is useful, yet we end up spending more than required time glued to our phones.
- As Emily Fletcher put it in her book Stress Less, Accomplish More “Meditation is like a hardware upgrade for your brain so that you can run whatever software you already have in place —Christianity, Judaism, Islam, Buddhism, Hinduism can all run more effectively on an optimized brain machine”.
- This one practice will have tremendous uplifting effect on your physical, mental, emotion and spiritual life. If you are new to meditation or think you can’t spare 10 minutes for it, you may consider 3 Minute Meditation Program.
There are few more lessons I loved –
- Don’t Pick Up the Phone Every Time It Rings.
- Don’t worry about things you can’t change.
- Get serious about setting goals.
I have also created a video of a few quotes from the book – Hope you like it. Please do subscribe to my YouTube channel – Myread4change
This one book full of wisdom from Robin Sharma at best will give you enough to adopt, implement and get better. At least it will leave you with good questions you may ponder upon making a life-changing decision.
Hope this book summary encourage you in some way to better yourself. You may download the Who will cry when you die E-book here. If you like this book you will also like The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.
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Thank you for your time. Wish you a Blessed Life.